The following is a guest post from Shondell of Call Me What You Want Even Cheap as part of the Yakezie Blog Swap. You can find my post there.
Getting married is one of the happiest moments of any girls life! We talk about it, we dream about, we fantasize about it. Let’s face it, for most of us we’ve been thinking about it since we were little girls, so naturally we want it all for our big day regardless of the cost. Of course advertisers are fully aware of this fact and take every advantage to sell us things we don’t necessarily need.
According to the Huffingon Post the average cost of a wedding in 2011 was $27,021. I can totally see how a couple can breeze through $27k without batting an eye. A banquet hall alone can take up half of that cost depending on how big your wedding is. Is $27k too much to spend? It sure is if you are in debt, or if you’re using all of your savings to pay for your wedding. I think a wedding can be nice without breaking the bank.
I am getting married in a few months and we’re not spending even close to that amount of money. Personally I just don’t see the need at this point in my life. I would rather put that money on a down payment on a house or some other type of investment rather than a wedding. Spending $27k for a few hours is just a hard pill for me to swallow. Even though both my fiancé and I have no personal debt, we’ve made the decision to have something small and pay cash for our big day! I am sure it will be memorable even though we’re not spending big bucks!
I must say planning our wedding and watching sales reps try to sell me things that I don’t want or need has been a blast. I was in a bridal store the other day looking for a wedding dress and I didn’t even open the door all the way and a sales rep approached me. Her first question was “are you engaged?” I said yes, she then asked me to fill out a survey. I knew immediately they just wanted my contact information so they could call and email me to try to sell me more stuff. I told her that I was just looking. Then she said she would see if there was a consultant to assist me. I said sure and off she went to get a consultant. When she came back I asked her where her clearance section was. Immediately her attitude changed. She said “clearance section?” I repeated it again even though I knew she heard me the first time. It was so funny, I wish I could have recorded her reaction. She looked at me like I had two heads, and then motioned her hand in the direction of the clearance rack. She never said anything else to me while I was in the store and of course the consultant never came. Maybe they were all busy, or maybe they don’t assist customers that shop in the clearance section. Who knows! I did eventually get my dress and not at that store.
Since I started planning for our wedding I’ve been really trying my best to look for wedding deals and asking friends and family to chip in where they can. I’ve been extremely fortunate to have some great friends and family members that are assisting us. My cousin/maid of honor is a party planner and has decided to plan my wedding for me. Thank God, because we probably would have just went to City Hall without her help. I hate planning events, it’s just too stressful. My other cousin who use to be a cake decorator has offered to do my cake for free. My cousin is so talented that her cakes should be in magazines.
My mom has a good friend who happens to be a wedding photographer. He offered to do our wedding as a gift to us. He brought some of his samples over the other day and he is pretty good.
Instead of renting a banquet hall to have our reception, a friend of mine suggested we have it in a nice restaurant. She also happens to know the owner of a nice restaurant that’s not far from the church we’re getting married at. The owner was nice enough to give us the whole entire restaurant for free and only charge us for the food and drinks. We’ll have to make sure we tip very well. Another freebie is my wedding dress. My mom purchased it as a gift to me. I think that’s it for the freebies for our wedding. After the wedding I will post our cost for everything such as the food, drinks, the church and the pastor.
How much do you think is too much to spend on a wedding and what do you think about freebies for your big day?