The older I get the more I come to value different qualities in friends, potential mates, co-workers, etc. Intelligence is one of those qualities. Having spent the last 10 years in a corporate setting, I’ve across my fair share of highly intelligent people, and highly interesting people. The latter always made me question how they were employed in the first place.
The last 8 months have given me the pleasure of meeting all sorts of people. I’ve consulted with companies that were acquired by Google, had numerous lunches and dinners with VC’s and spent A LOT of time with programmers and developers. All in all, I spend the majority of my work day with smart people. And I learn a lot of random but interesting things from every single person. The majority of my contacts and clients are male, as I work in a male dominated field, so the fact that most of them are horrible at managing a budget perplexes me in a way that I can not fathom.
Because of this blog, I’ve been able to have conversations with friends about their finances. It’s a strange barrier, but once you get through the first few sentences, people (women) are more likely to start talking about their debt, their goals, budgets etc. I don’t claim to be perfect. I still splurge, make not-so smart decisions, and buy things that I shouldn’t. Most of my female friends are like, but ask them to do something outrageous expensive that the first words out of their mouths are ” I don’t have the budget”. Ask the same thing of my guy friends and they are on their way before I can finish my sentence.
The most shocking difference that I’ve found as a result of my interactions is that most males don not even have a budget. I know, shocking, right? If you’re a reader of personal finance blogs, you’ll notice that a good chunk of them are written by men. Turns out that those are the exception, and not the rule.
I do want to point out that I, obviously, have a rather small sample size as I could not have surveyed everyone on the planet.
Back to being a sapiosexual. Being smart with money, and knowing how to spend is sexy. It shows that one cares about their future, and that they have hopes, dreams, and goals. It also shows that you’re a grownup. My parents are both academics, I grew up around really intelligent people. Being intelligent or book smart does not necessarily mean that you have the ability to pay attention to your bank account, and make sure that you’re cheques don’t bounce, or your credit card isn’t declined.
My point in all this rambling is that being smart is sexy, and even if you’re a genius, being good with your hard earned dollar shows more intelligence than being able to explain organic chemistry. Women find that stuff attractive. They like knowing that you have common sense and a good head on your shoulders.
And ladies, be weary of anyone who can’t handle their finances. I’ve dated a few of those, and being bad with money that’s a tip of the iceberg.